Signs of Abuse in the Family on children and women

Domestic violence is common nowadays in many families. Children and women happen to be the ones who are always on the receiving end due to domestic violence. This calls for concerted efforts from child protection agencies and law enforcement agencies.
Are you a victim of abuse?

Read on to learn how you can tell that you are or your children are becoming or already victims of abuse…

It is apparent that abuse in the household is generally perpetrated by the men folks as opposed to the women folks. The worst thing is that most of the victims of domestic violence do not always reveal their ordeal for the sake of the family.
How do you know that something is wrong?

I caution you to be careful of the looming abuse…

Women folks you should be on the look out for signs of domestic violence and other types of abuse… Check out this …

Child abuse research and other related surveys have shown that you may be becoming or already are a victim of abuse if you:
• Feel like you have to be extra careful to keep him from getting angry.
• Are frightened by his temper.
• Feel you can't live without him.
• Stop seeing other friends or family members,
• Give up activities you enjoy most because he doesn't like them.
• Are afraid to tell him your worries and feelings about the relationship.
• Are often compliant because you are afraid to hurt his feelings;
• Have the urge to "rescue" him when he is troubled.
• Feel that you are the only one who can help him
• Feel that you should try to change his behavior and attitude.
• Find yourself apologizing to yourself or others for your partner's behavior when you are treated badly.
• Stop expressing opinions if he doesn't agree with them.
• Stay because you feel he will kill himself if you leave.
• Believe that his jealousy is a sign of love.
• Have been kicked, hit, shoved, or had things thrown at you by him when he was jealous or angry.
• Believe the critical things he says to make you feel bad about yourself.
• Believe that there is something wrong with you if you don't enjoy the sexual things he makes you do.
• Believe in the traditional ideas of what a man and a woman should be and do -- that the man makes the decisions and the woman pleases him.
• Last but not least, have been abused as a child or seen your mother abused.

If you are abused know that you are not alone and that you are not to blame. You cannot control your partner’s violence.
Here are some of the ways you and your kids can make yourselves safer from abuse:
• Call the police if you have been assaulted.
• Charging abusive males is a necessary step in reducing physical violence.
• Tell someone and keep a record of all incidents for evidence.
• Write down the details for yourself as soon as possible after the assault.

Keep it in a safe place where he won't find it.
• Develop a safety plan. Memorize emergency numbers. Keep spare house and car keys handy. Know where you can stay in an emergency.
• Consider ending the relationship as soon as possible. Without intervention, his violence will increase in frequency and severity as time passes.
• Recognize that no one has the right to control you and that it is everyone's human right to live without fear.

You need to be on the look out for men who:
• Do not listen to you, ignore you or talk over you.
• Sit or stand too close to you, making you uncomfortable and seem to enjoy it.
• Do only what they want or push you to get what they want.
• Express anger and violence towards women either through words or physically.
• Have a bad attitude toward women.
• Are overly possessive or jealous.
• Drink or use drugs heavily.

Are you dating one already?